This has been a big struggle for me since we’ve moved across the country. I’ll never forget a short conversation Christian and I had while walking to dinner on our honeymoon. I asked him what he was most looking forward to about marriage and living together and he said “the meals.” When he asked me the same question I said “sharing responsibilities.” I know, I am beyond lame, but acts of service is my love language (the other four being physical touch, gift giving, words of affirmation and quality time) and when Christian takes out the trash and vacuums the house, it’s practically equivalent to a bouquet of roses to me!
With Christian’s schedule, he can’t be around very much and that’s why my girlfriends in California have been everything to me! Most of them haven’t even met Christian and I’m left defending myself that he’s real and not a fictional character. This being said, it’s been pretty difficult to try to keep my life not only balanced, but also fulfilled and grateful. It’s so easy to get caught up in trying to get everything done better and faster (this is where I sing Kanye West), but is that truly leaving me fulfilled? What will I be most pleased with in a year – the fact that I checked everything off my to-do list each night of the week or the memory of taking a late-night swim in the pool with Christian and drinking wine while watching The Normal Heart (and maybe crying my eyes out)? Or getting after-work drinks with my girlfriends on the beach while watching the sunset?
There will always be things to get done. I can always do more – clean the house better, make a more delicious dinner, be more driven and ambitious in my day job, spend more of my free time working on this blog – but most of all, I need to live in the moment and not just take photos of it.
Do any of you feel this way? How do you try to keep your life balanced and fulfilled? I would love to hear! Thanks so much for reading and sharing and don’t forget to enter the BANDED giveaway! XO –