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– submitting this guest bedroom to the Gatehouse Home Store’s “Win a Room”  contest to win a $2500 gift card to Gatehouse along with free design services from the owner. You can enter by following Gatehouse on Instagram and Facebook and sharing a photo of the room you want to makeover, the reason why and tag #winaroomwithgatehouse! More info here. And can we talk about this adorable mug? –

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– finishing my one-month trial with ClassPass –

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– candy goodies from my friend who just traveled to Japan –

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– this colorful gem of a photo with my blogger babes My Style Diaries, Haute off the Rack and A Pinch of Lovely that makes me want to live in a Yurt on the beach –

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– fresh berries and coffee on the patio –

We had a fun week babysitting my brother and sister-in-law’s miniature dachshund, Pollack, and joking about becoming a “family of five.”  I’m not even kidding, I felt like I had kids! Waking up earlier to take each dog out on leash, they each have different routines, trying to keep Polly from harassing Lula LaShonda (a three-legged cat can’t really swat at a pestering dog… so the poor thing just looks at me and we communicate through her expression, “help me!” which means take me to your room so I can sleep on the bed away from these minions), the list goes on.  It was fun to keep her and Bailey most definitely loved the company.

This week I finished my one month trial with ClassPass, and I have to say it was a very cool experience. For $79-$99 a month (it varies by your city) you have access to a plethora of exercise classes in your area.  I tried out two different Pilates studios, a Yoga studio and Spin class.  The site is extremely easy to use, and it was really fun to try some studios and gyms I may have never otherwise visited. It does cap you at three visits per studio in a month, which really does force you to try new places.  You can read more about it on their FAQ page. Have any of you tried ClassPass?  What did you think about it?

We’re heading to LA this weekend to celebrate my brother’s 30th birthday, and don’t tell him – but I’m really most excited to see my niece and nephew!  Edie is obviously a fan favorite and Rowan is just a chunky five-month old.  Those two are so squeezable it’s delightful.

What’s going on this weekend? And who else wants to cover their body in flash tattoos like the above group pic? Obsessed. Thanks so much for reading and a triple thank you to all of your incredible comments on Wednesday.  You guys are so inspiring!  XO –

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“Let everyone be sure to do his very best, for then he will have the personal satisfaction of work done well and won’t need to compare himself with someone else.” – Galatians 6:4

When I saw this quote for the first time a year or so ago, I practically started clapping. How true is this?  And why is it that even though we know it’s true, we all still struggle with it?

When I decided to compete for Miss Mississippi Teen USA (what feels like forever ago, proof this really happened here), my initial reason for competing was that I could meet girls from all over the state.  Once I was selected to represent the state at Miss Teen USA, I had a privilege of making friends from all over the country!  Ten years later, and I live in the same town with Miss Ohio and North Carolina.  I’m even meeting up with Miss New York for coffee in LA this weekend! The experience, if not just for meeting so many ambitious and talented women, was one I’ll value forever.

Amazing as it was, it also introduced a new level of body image, self consciousness and comparison.  This is by means no one’s fault nor do I feel pageants are to blame – it was all in my own head. At 18, I was around some of the most beautiful and talented teenage girls in the country, and I would by lying to you if I said I didn’t compare my body and appearance to theirs.  Why can’t I change this flaw or be more like her?  Why can’t I be more photogenic and more natural in front of the camera?  I wish my hair was as pretty as hers or my legs as long and lean as hers. The list goes on.

I’ve felt this way in the blogging world as well. Would I get more comments, followers or likes if I was more like this or that?  And when I feel this way, I force myself to unplug.  Put the phone in a drawer.  Put away the laptop or iPad.  Stop for a moment and reflect on the relationships and opportunities I’ve been fortunate to have rather than compare myself to someone else’s success.  As Rick Warren says, “You cannot be happy and envious at the same time.”  Choose to to be happy.  You can’t focus on your purpose and God’s purpose for you while comparing yourself to others. And for me, while the comparison and envy may not disappear, I have to actively stop myself and remind myself to change my perspective.

Never forget that social media (and often blogs) are highlight reels of the best moments. No one is instagramming their flat tire or microwaved frozen curry dinner (trust me, I’ve had both and neither made an appearance on social media… although this did and it still makes me laugh)! I try to actively change the way I look at things, which helps to change my state of mind.

What do you do to prevent yourself from the unhealthy and tempting game of comparison? I’d love to hear.  Thanks for reading and sharing! XO –

 

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When Christian and I first met and starting dating, I was in college and all about the color.  Everything I wore was full of bright, cheerful color.  And 800 bracelets (I was like a gypsy – lovin’ it). He recently pointed out that for the first few years after college (when I was working at a magazine and a bank’s headquarters), I wore all black all the time.  Flash forward to these days in Southern California and I wear solid, breezy whites and light colors nonstop.  I think I’m going through phases of the color wheel over here, are any of you like that?

This beach ensemble from our Laguna Beach staycation reminds me of something I would 100% have worn in college. Combine the colorful kimono with this trendy suit (I’m all about the retro suit this summer), and Orchid Boutique has become one of my favorite spots to shop for designer swimwear.  Not to mention this coverup is just the piece that I can’t wait to take to Hawaii next month!

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 swimwear c/o Orchid Boutique | coverup c/o Orchid Boutique, sold out, also available here | hat | tote c/o Banago | sunnies | sandals c/o | necklace c/o | colorful bracelets c/o | flash tattoos | knot bracelet c/o | gold bangles c/o | gold ring c/o | extensions – $5 off with code LUXYKATHLEEN

photos by Valorie Darling

What’s your beach style?  Thanks so much for reading! XO –

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– the most awesome spoon ever –

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– I cannot resist a good sale –

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– I love some pink and red –

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– bright beach accessories with the most adorable tote –

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– a balcony sunset that I could’ve watched for hours –

This week went by in a blur.  I was actually listening to a podcast on the way to work this week and the interviewee was saying, “you know how a year felt like SO long when you were younger and now it feels like no time at all?”  I was all (insert praise hands emoji), right?  California looks and feels almost the exact same every day of the year, so it’s like Groundhog Day over here.  When I stop to think about the fact that we’ve almost lived here two years, my jaw practically drops.  I want to do a Zack Morris and freeze time so I can stop to enjoy the days rather than breezing through them!  #firstworldproblems

Moving on, this weekend Christian and I plan to slow down.  We’ve been getting home at 9PM or later, and Christian has stayed up late working while waking up at 4:30AM to head to the hospital.  The poor guys is a walking zombie, so we’re going to put all those “to do’s” on hold and have a major breakfast in bed Saturday and wander over to do some strawberry picking at a local farm in the afternoon.  I haven’t started off a Monday feeling refreshed and revamped in quite a while – so that’s this weekend’s mission!

How do you slow down when you’re feel like the Tasmanian Devil (am I the only one who uses that reference when I’m feeling spastic)?  I’d love to hear.  Thank you guys always for reading and sharing – I love your comments! XO-

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Sometimes, there’s nothing more fun than being a tourist in your own city. When some blogger friends of mine came in town from Louisiana, it was the perfect excuse to bunk up in Laguna Beach and enjoy a little staycation. I knew this breezy number would be just the perfect beach dress. Y’all know I’m a sucker for a maxi dress and they are always my go-to for tropical trips. I love how they catch the wind on the beach and there’s something ethereal about this blue Calypso St. Barth piece.

Luckily for you guys, from now until March 16th, Calypso is offering $50 off $300, $150 off $600 and $300 off $1000 when you shop their site. We’re talking dresses, beach cover-ups, swimwear, denim and cashmere – yes, please! I’m stocking up for my summer wanderlust plans.

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dress c/o Calypso St. Barth | sandals c/o | clutch – Michael Kors, similar here| earrings | necklace c/o | colorful bracelets c/o Silis | knot bracelet c/o Lumo | gold bangles and ring c/o | arrow bracelet | turquoise cuff c/o | hair extensions ($5 off with code LUXYKATHLEEN!)

photos by the oh-so-talented Valorie Darling

Use the promo code GCSPRING2015 by 3/16 to jump in on Calypso’s spring collection and tell me, what vacations do you have planned this summer? And more importantly… can I come?

Thanks for reading! XO –

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Christian and I have unintentionally created an annual February ski trip, and this year we had the pleasure of taking an extra-long weekend trip with Christian’s little brother who was visiting from Mississippi, Timothy!  It was so fun to ski with the two of them, and it definitely made me nervous watching them race each other down the mountain as I kep a snail’s pace behind them. Thankfully we had a great trip with no injuries (other than my usual bruises on my shins from ski boots – is anyone else like that?).

A snowy weekend was just the excuse to pull out this fur-trimmed beauty that’s been staring at me from my bed everyday.  I’m a sucker for a fur-trimmed anything and this jacket has such a great fit! I love the mix of leather sleeves, zippered detailing and fur – it’s definitely a statement.

And yes, I’m in heels in the snow – but in my defense this was about seven feet outside our cabin door and the fresh snow was just too gorgeous. Plus, the toe-capped heels make the outfit – and What would Carrie do?  She would definitely choose the impractical heels that completed the outfit, right?

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coat c/o | leggings | turtleneck – Banana Republic, love this one (40% off!) | heels – ASOS, old, similar here and here | bag, similar here | beanie | sunnies | gold ring c/o | watch c/o | lipstick in Shame

 

Thanks so much for reading! XO –

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– dreaming of this perfect snow day last weekend –

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– a quick stop by the gorgeous Convict Lake (scary name, I know!) –

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– celebrating Christian’s birthday cooking together and watching Modern Family (this was his birthday cake of choice) –

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– jeweled sandals that are going to live on my feet this summer –

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– coffee just tastes better when it’s cold, don’t you think? –

Hey Friday!  The week following a vacation is always a little sad, am I right?  We had such a blast skiing (and thank you for the recommendations!  We didn’t make it to the brewery but did make it to Gomez’s – YUM), but I came back with a nasty cold that has slowed me down more than I’d like to admit.  NyQuil has been my bestie, although I wake up in a cough syrup haze.  I felt like Meg Ryan in You’ve Got Mail (PS – check out that website if you want to travel back in time) when she’s in her bed surrounded by tissues.

I am excited to welcome my blogger friends from Louisiana to California, and we have a fun staycation planned for the weekend – more on this next week!

Lastly, I wanted to share this article on CBL from the fabulous online magazine, Established California.  Love what this entire site is all about, and it was my privilege to be featured.  Another thanks to my friends at INPink for this sweet mention!

I hope you guys have an amazing weekend!  Thank you so much for reading – XO –

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When I first saw this dress, I immediately loved how feminine it was.  When we lived in the South, I actually rarely wore white or ivory dresses because it seemed like we were always attending engagement parties and wedding festivities.  In these events, of course you want the bride to be the only one wearing white, so I would opt for another color or a patterned dress.  Now that we live in California we attend very few wedding events, and when we do they’re super casual.  So white is back on the table, oh yeah!

This was actually the exact outfit I took to Palm Springs for Valentine’s dinner with Christian (and magically didn’t stain it – major points for me).  I can’t wait for the chance to wear it again – it’s so thin and lightweight, making it both ladylike and comfortable. Scroll down for my favorite white and ivory midi picks!

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dress c/o Lulu’s | blazer | heels – Zara, old, similar here | clutch, old, similar here | arrow bracelet c/o INPink | chainlink bracelet c/o Derng | earrings | sunnies

 

What did you wear for Valentine’s Day?  And do y’all love wearing ivory and white as much as I do?  Thanks for reading! XO –

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This week’s wish list has me looking ahead to spring.  Who can turn down a tulle skirt, classic nude pumps, stripes and aztec?  Nobody, that’s who.

These pumps are such a classic, I’m diggin’ the red pair too.

Also, I couldn’t leave out that Shopbop is having an amazing sale this week, including full-price and sale items! Spend $250+ and get 15% off, spend $500+ and get 20% and spend $1000+ and get 25% off with code BIGEVENT15.  Below are some of my favorite picks:

 

Tell me what you’re lusting after!  Thanks so much for reading – XO –

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This is most definitely a “what would Carrie Bradshaw do” moment in my closet.  I originally paired the peplum top with the hot pink skirt and tossed in the floral sandals, looked in the mirror and thought, “is this too much?”

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If she felt great, she would rock it.  And I thought it was adorable, so even though I got a raised brow glance from Christian, I didn’t care.  I felt like a cotton candy cupcake, and I’m into it.  That’s what’s fashion is all about – taking risks and seeing how it works out.

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top c/o Style Revel (sign up here to shop this top from their Instagram!) | skirt c/o | heels c/o | earrings c/o Candy Ice | sunnies c/o | chainlink bracelet c/o | arrow cuff c/o | clutch

Do you have moments when you’re pairing something together and you think, “this might be considered ‘too much’ but I feel great and therefore I’m wearing it.”  Because I have this moment often, and I think the most important accessory of all is confidence. If you’re uncomfortable, you’ll look uncomfortable.

If you feel great, own it.  Thanks so much for reading! XO –

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Y’all may remember seeing a similar skirt here.  CAUSE YA DID.  I loved this beauty in red so much that I needed it in green too!

On Sunday I went to LA with my girlfriend Nikki to an Academy Awards viewing party at the W Hollywood.  I knew this skirt would bring the va-va-voom without looking like a ball gown, as if I was actually attending the awards show.  Of which I clearly was not.

I felt very Carrie Bradshaw, and I have to admit the skirt was a showstopper.  If you guys have any glam event to attend – this skirt will turn some heads, I guarantee it!

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skirt c/o | top | necklace c/o, similar here | heels, love this affordable pair | clutch – Shop Prima Donna, no longer available, similar here and here | sunnies c/o | statement ring c/o | chainlink bracelet c/o

 

What’s hanging in your closet that makes you channel your inner Carrie Bradshaw.  You know I wanna hear.  Thanks for reading! XO –

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Because I always have a lust list, this week’s wish list is a little all over the place.  From a gold bar cart under $215 to classic neutrals, a scalloped swimsuit and a concealer I’ve been wanting to try – I actually keep a little note on my phone of  things I’ve got my eye on.  Is that weird?  I also keep notes of people’s travel tips/recommendations, movies I’d like to see and restaurants I’d like to try.

But this necklace… oh this necklace.  I usually like to layer statement necklaces for even more va-va-voom, but with this beauty I can tell I wouldn’t even need to worry with that. When it comes to jewelry, I’m usually a “more is more” kind of gal.  Call it the Southerner in me!

What’s on your wish list? Are y’all in this chilly weather living/spring wishin’ phase like me? Thanks for reading – XO –

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